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A Place Called Compassion: Where Judgment Goes to Die

This past weekend, I had an eye-opening experience that set me back on my heels. After spending a beautiful weekend away in Newport, RI, with friends, I was feeling especially blessed.  The weather was beautiful, the food fantastic, and the conversation even better. I was basking in the glow as Rick, and I checked out and prepared for our trek home.

 As we crossed the parking lot, I noticed a slightly grizzled looking man sitting back in a lawn chair looking quite proud of himself. There around […]

By |October 4th, 2019|Blog|

Falling…

Fall Leaves

I love the Fall. The crisp, fresh air is a welcome break from the heat and humidity of the summer. The landscape is morphing from green to warm shades of red, orange and yellow, and the local apple orchard is serving up samples of apple cider donuts along with a fresh cup of cider. The first time I cover my tank top with a sweatshirt made feminine with a colorful scarf, I’m about as happy as I can be.

As fall creeps in, it’s always been a time of new beginnings […]

By |September 13th, 2019|Blog|

Liar, Liar: A Bump on the Road to Authenticity

This past weekend, I was speaking at an event just north of New York City. During my presentation, I addressed the importance of setting personal boundaries in relationships. I noticed one young woman with a quizzical expression, so I asked her if she had a question. She nodded. “What is wrong with ‘making’ something okay with me?” At that point, I shared my own experience of what can happen in a friendship—or any relationship for that matter—when we don’t draw clear boundaries.

In my case, I had a […]

By |June 7th, 2019|Blog|

Being: A Moment to Breathe

After what felt like a very long, dark winter, Spring has finally sprung here in Upstate New York. I love waking up to the birds singing in the apple tree outside the bedroom window.

With the threat of frost and snow finally gone, I invited a friend over for a visit. Upon arrival, she shared that as she turned down Route 32, a construction truck pulled out to block the lane, forcing her to keep her speed below 30 mph. “It was amazing!” she said. “If […]

By |May 24th, 2019|Blog|

Leading With Love

I would like to start by thanking all of you who reached out with your condolences on the loss of my son’s friend. I am so grateful. The experience stirred something in me that took me by surprise. In my saddened state, I couldn’t help but fixate on the feeling that the world appears to be a mess. The opioid crisis is just one tiny part. Honestly, I think I had a crisis of faith because I started to wonder if the work I’m doing […]

By |May 17th, 2019|Blog|

A Life Cut Short: ACEs in Action

I received some heartbreaking news this week. A young man who was a childhood friend with my son Ben has died of a heroin overdose. For purposes of this blog, I will call the young man Tommy.

Tommy was five years old when we met. He was a quiet kid—one you might not notice in a room full of noisy kindergarteners. Just before the start of the school year, Tommy’s dad moved in with his father who lived next door to us. I clearly remember wishing […]

By |April 26th, 2019|Blog|

Understanding Brings Compassion

I know I promised to begin delving into vulnerability as it relates to guilt and shame, but something came up this past weekend that I wanted to share.

I had a wonderful experience at the Mind, Body, Soul Expo held in Saratoga Springs on Saturday.  The place was packed all day long with over four thousand people searching to find ways of feeling better physically, emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually. During the expo, I had the opportunity to speak with many, many people who stopped by my booth. If […]

By |March 29th, 2019|Blog|

Vulnerability: A Dirty Word or a Life Changer?

While I was out with my dog, Kye, for a walk this morning, I had a thought, but first I have to confess that March has always been a bit challenging for me. In fact, it’s begun to feel like the cold and damp will never end, and to make it worse, I developed a drippy, stuffy cold. I’ve noticed that as human beings, when we don’t feel well, we can become vulnerable to the voices in our heads—the same voices we would laugh at when we are feeling healthy and […]

By |March 8th, 2019|Blog|

A Whole New You: Understanding ACEs

Does this sound familiar? You or someone close to you complains of feeling stuck in a situation whether it’s a job or relationship pattern. No matter how uncomfortable it becomes, though, you/they can’t seem to break free. The rut you’re in gets deeper and deeper and it seems there’s no way out. You wonder, “Where does it end?”

It’s possible that there is a more appropriate question: Where did it start?

As I’ve stated in previous blogs, coming across the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE Study) was almost a spiritual experience. When […]

By |February 18th, 2019|Blog|

Change Your Life? Curiosity Is Key

Last week I left you standing on the edge of your own personal greatness. I proposed that with curiosity, you can begin to understand what may be holding you back, blocking your path, leaving you feeling frustrated and possibly even not good enough to follow your dream. I shared my idea that being open to discovery, a phrase I use in my book starts with curiosity. It only makes sense, right? If you don’t take the time to be curious about the most important person in your life (YOU!), […]

By |February 1st, 2019|Blog|